By day, Jess Cattelly is a busy 32-year-old mum who loves to cook and travel the world with her partner. By night, she runs Australia’s most awarded female-focused Adult Play Parties.

On their third date, Jess Cattelly and Lawrence Jay went to Ikea to see what kind of furniture might suit the Adult Play Parties Venue they had just decided to open. It was an idea Jay, then 27, had proposed to Cattelly, then 20, on an even earlier date.

For most people, the suggestion of opening a sex club with someone who was a stranger a minute ago might have been chalked up to just one of those fun-and-flirty hypotheticals that come up on first dates. But Cattelly actually agreed.